Every time I said ME, MY, or MINE, Tim was correcting me. Yes, it was a bit annoying at the time, but it worked. Eventually those words were replaced by WE, US, OURS.
Common things leaders say (will use Toastmasters as an example because, well, I can) and some things I have heard in the past have been - "MY Area Directors have completed their visits". Who's Area Directors? We are all servant leaders here, they are OUR Area Directors. Well actually they are the member's. And they did a great job serving OUR members.
"MY committee is working hard." How about OUR committee is working hard. Makes you send less like a boss and more like a leader. And that the committee is working for us, to make our event special.
"MY goals for the year are...." OUR goals for the year are... <Hey if it was all you then you can do the work and I will sit back and let you do it all.> Changing a small word gives people ownership of the goal and they might actually work towards it.
Now sometimes the leader has to use ME, MY, MINE, and I. We need to hear more leaders so "I own that", "I made a mistake", "You can blame ME". I saw a leader cut down a member at a recent by blaming them for the leader's miscommunication. Even if the miscommunication did not happen, the leader should have taken ownership. I left that meeting fearing that we had lost a member because of a failure to take ownership.
It took me a while to get used to changing my vocabulary but I did. So much so that I cringe now when I hear leaders say ME, MY, or MINE more then WE, US, or OURS. When the leader said MY Area Directors, I leaned over to my husband and said OUR Area Director. He smiled and shook his head, yes. Change a phrase and change perception.