We all agreed that CC would be a judgement free zone. We all have different things we wanted to work on and different ways of doing it. Some of are participating in Weight Watchers, some of us have had weight loss surgery, some of us lift weights, some of don’t exercise at all, and others are doing supplements. We decided that it did not matter if we had to lose no weight, 10 pounds, 50 pounds, or 100 pounds or more. And we all agreed that we would not body shame anyone. I really took this to heart. I really believed that all of us would hold to that principle. That was broken yesterday.
Yesterday morning, one of the Cuties body shamed a complete stranger on her personal Facebook page. I know that is was her personal space. I know that it was not posted in the Committed Cuties page but she was a member of our group. A member that had lost weight, posted about it, read the posts of the women who had been beat up emotionally by bullies their whole lives, and she was making fun of someone. The post was a photo of a woman in a tire store. In a two piece bathing suit, clearly tired with her head down. I was mortified that someone who had made a pledge to us would do this. I asked the question “Body shaming? Really?” She told me it wasn’t body shaming, that it was funny. I commented that maybe the woman got a flat tire on the way to the pool or beach, had to stop at that tire store, didn’t have a choice. That really no one knew what had gotten her to that point. I was told that it was her opinion and that I had mine and LOL…. So I unfriended her and removed her from the group.
I wanted to ask her if she would have taken the photo if the woman was thin but I already knew the answer. I knew that if she was willing to make fun of this woman, who was overweight, with her stomach showing because her suit had rolled up (every fat woman’s nightmare), she would be willing to do it to me because you can’t have it both ways. You can’t say you won’t do it in my group and then do it on your personal page. It is not acceptable.
Fat discrimination and making fun of fat people is still acceptable, but not in my world. You don’t get the privilege of our support if you think that kind of behavior is ok. You don’t get to be privy to our deepest pains and hurts and then mock us. We are every fat girl or fat woman in the world and if you mock or make fun of one, you are doing it to all us, including the friend who invited you to the group. Shame on you for using us to support you and then crapping all over our trust. I hope someone never posts a photo of you and tells you it was just joke, LOL….