Don't wear horizontal stripes.
Don't wear your hair long.
Wear black as much as possible, especially on the bottom half.
Don't wear necklaces close to your chin.
Never tuck in a shirt.
Always look put together because no one wants to see a sloppy fat person.
Well I ditched the no long hair thing last year. I started wearing colors other then black. I love a good necklace now. Tucking in the shirt is still off the list. And today I wore horizontal stripes and I am still alive after not bursting in to flames.
When I was shopping Old Navy (love their inexpensive clothes while I lose weight) I came across this sweater. Living in the desert Southwest, I don't have much need for big, bulky sweaters. I just need one or two that will keep me slightly warm for the 3 months that it is "cold" here. I love long sleeves, especially ones that reach my wrists. I thought, for the first time in my life, I will buy that stripe sweater. And today I wore it in public. Yes, this fat woman took all those things her mother said about shirts like this and tossed it out the window. I think the result was pretty flattering. I was warm. I paired it with a cute necklace that was close to my chin (so there!), skinny jeans, and calf high boots (another no no mom's list). I felt and looked good. Someone even asked me if I had lost more weight. I haven't but it was nice to be asked anyway. It made me feel awesome.
Along with banishing so many other voices in my head, I am banishing the things that I have been told for years that a fat woman should or should not wear. Those voices don't know squat. I think find what looks good on you, feels good on you, damn the rest of the crap people tell you. I am thinking I need another sweater just like this one.