In my mid-20's I lived and worked in San Diego at a non-profit. I had colleague that I was particular close too and had a friendship outside of the office. We often did things on the weekends, especially when my then husband was on military deployment. Our friendship was destroyed the day she told a male co-worker that if he wasn't nice to her, she would have me sit on him. I was shocked and stunned to say the least and would have done nothing about it but another colleague heard the exchange and told my boss, the Director of our office. My colleague has to go to sensitivity training, was reprimanded, and had to apologize to me. Our friendship was over and my self esteem was forever damaged.
Confidence can be shattered quickly. I was sexually harassed in a volunteer organization and did not report it for a year because I had a hard time believing I was actually being harassed. I was not sure because of my size. I believed that there was no way he would touch me that way because I was obese. I only reported him after he did creepier things to someone I knew. Through the investigation the topic of my weight came up several times because it seemed impossible to the harassers representative that his client would want to touch someone so fat. I have moved on in the organization but I won't soon forget how I was treated.
We have all had a moment when we had thoughts of body shaming or said something about someone's body. I am totally guilty of it. We are human. Educating our co-workers and not being afraid to say something after a comment will make it less acceptable in our world not just where we work. More than a third (37 percent) of American workers report having been bullied at work. This cannot be accepted anymore. We have to work toward making body issues no longer an issue.